Listen, life is what how you want it to be. Today is a day when I could seek a lot of "uhh-aha" on my respective pages, stirring up your minds with a big, emotional post, the situation is such. I will not do that, I have watched our mother cooking for us with above 100*F fever without complain. I fight with her on many occasions, cannot be her pet anymore like before which she wants, a sense of guilt however works inside, we could have been a little compassionate towards her, study hard, do something in life.... thats what she wished for. I do not know if our father sitting in another world feels guilty or not, I have never seen him enquiring when she eats her lunch or how she feels on certain days. He definitely was good human being but there is something more what your lady expects from you. I see same in this home, may be so I do not sit, cry comparing my husband's behaviour towards me, that of his father's towards his mother.
I find a repeat of my mother's life in mine. I was never jealous but I still wonder how dedicated a person can be towards his wife.... all day pampering "eei eei watch your steps, no no no you cannot ride a bus, osudh ta khao... the medicines are placed between her lips ever since I got married, I didn't see husband's mother in most of evenings be at home .... her husband never frowned, made himself tea back from office. His wife was busy partying, he was with Communist Manifesto, son left home at age 20 to support family. In between all these, it seemed to me daughter of that house's academics was severely neglected. Well, let us not compare my husband's treatment of me with that of his father's towards his mother. I may not be friends with her but the way she discharged her duty as daughter-in-law, is rare definitely! But yes, neither our father, nor my man ever enquired what we are doing in the home front, what we are buying, we have complete freedom in that matter!
My overconfident husband thinks what I enjoy is beyond his mother's imagination while I am quick to retaliate "did you ever see me out when you are at home? Did you ever have to serve yourself your own food? Am I a spendthrift? I came to this island with eight year old child, in those lone years I carried 8kgs of rice bags, groceries, bags full of fish, meat, so shut up! I may not have given more importance to social work than my own home but I am absolutely okay with it." But, both of us take such fights lightly as part of life. Not in high spirit today, I prepared a healthy, sugar free, oil free microwave cup this morning for family.
Happiness is within you, your family, friends add more to it. I give big talks, do not follow the wisdom. But I cook & serve you well. Let us prepare this vegetarian, vegan Bengali curry with ridge gourd, Hyacinth beans, culantro SHEEM ER BICHI O BILATI DHONEPATA DIYE JHINGE. I have also cooked rest of family's favourite prawn curry, mutton curry, paneer, dal alongside.
The man is still at home today until lunch. He would have Egg-Potato Sandwich, head to office when I want him to take rest. He is hardworking, energetic self but only at office. He is back from tour late last night only to travel again over weekend, he is not feeling well, never complains! All his complain is against my tiny green patch which he thinks generates "mosha o machi." The best thing about him is he never stops me from doing what I wish.
I wish more flowers on my green patch. They are just not getting enough sunlight. The couple fight at this home knows no bound, it is healthy if only you do not allow any third party to benefit from it. Cristine is good but supports Sir more. The man told me last Saturday "dhonepata diye jhinge?"... I said, "toder bari ja hoyna shetai ki weird? Amar to money hoy toder bari khub limited ranna-barir byaparey.... khali thor-bori-khara and vice-versa!" Anyway, he did eat the vegan, gluten free, soothing on your stomach, a dish with ridge gourd, dried Hyacinth beans seeds, Vietnamese saw tooth coriander / Mexican coriander / culantro leaves SHEEM ER BICHI O BILATI DHONEPATA DIYE JHINGE, the son didn't touch, he had his favourites prawn, paneer, mutton, I love such light curries vegetarian or with my favourite kind of freshwater fish variety.
INGREDIENTS :
DRIED HYACINTH BEAN SEED : 2TBSP
RIDGE GOURD : 1BIG OR 2-3 SMALLER SIZED
CULANTRO / BILATI DHONEPATA / VIETNAMESE SAWTOOTH CORIANDER / MEXICAN CORIANDER : 4-5 LEAVES
FRESH CORIANDER : A SPRIG [OPTIONAL]
NIGELLA SEED / KALONJI / KALOJEEREY : 1/4TSP
DRY RED CHILLI : 1
RED CHILLI POWDER : 1/2TSP
TURMERIC POWDER : 1/2TSP
SALT : AS REQUIRED
OIL : 2TBSP [I USE MUSTARD OIL]
PROCEDURE :
It is an easy recipe but raw, Hyacinth beans seeds requires few steps to get ready to be used in cooking.
My family used to roast it in sand in bulk, store for a year. I got a packet, dry roasted 2tbsp of them.
Wash, soak them in hot water for at least 2 hours, we will not need to boil them then as my family veterans used to do.
Peel off ridge gourd skin, discard two ends. Cut half, then into cubes. Wash, marinate with turmeric + red chilli powders + salt. Keep aside covered for 10 -15 minutes.
Chop, wash culantro and coriander leaves, take them in blender. Blend to a paste adding a little of water.
Heat oil in wok, temper it with halved dried chillies, nigella seeds.
Discard water from Hyacinth beans seeds, add to wok. Stir for 1/2 a minute.
Add marinated ridge gourds, fold in well.
Cover cook at lowest heat for 4-5 minutes. A lot of water would release.
Add culantro + coriander leaves paste to curry. Fold in, cover cook for a minute.
We are done, we don't require to add water.
Transfer to serving bowl, enjoy with steamed rice, millet. Get dal, fish, meat, salad... done!
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