An interesting series is featuring on Netflix; Mamla Legal Hai! I ain't a television buff, the bread winner is! I watched lot until 2006! Mamma, toddler son, Deepa didi, later Sushoma didi lived together, watched daily soaps. We watched while feeding him, 2-3 hours he would take per meal. His patient father served for 1&1/2 years. Thereafter, it was my turn with son, I learnt patience. when he was 2&1/2 years of age; Deepa, thereafter Sushoma left job. I felt watching daily soaps isn't okay for toddler, his concern. I had to divert his mind to constructive something. We continued with Thomas The Tank Engine, Dora The Explorer, few more. That time Kolkata television network aired great Telefilms; I would rent CDs of good movies.
My neighbours, Saraswati, a part-timer was all through beside me, her younger son Pratik too. Engaging Pratik with him, I went shopping for essentials. Both sides of family were support, if I couldn't manage my home, what's the point starting to live separately? Some friends would go to parents or in-laws the moment their men sailed, I scolded them. Relationships demand transparency! We need keep aside differences, be cordial.
Repeat saying these, I ain't claiming anything from son, we miss him, father doesn't express, I do! He has to call us regular, share updates. I remember of sleepless nights when he refused nasal drops, kept crying entire night. I informed family after meeting paediatrician Dr. Deepak Ray next morning. I remember how mothers turned him mad, doctors in Singapore have no idea to what extent mothers, patients like me can nag doctors. The complicated diseases, poor patients South Asian doctors handle, weird questions from both educated, uneducated mass, medical experts in first world countries having star facilities can't think of. Government hospital doctors there face immense trouble, overwhelming patients vs financial crunch! No offence meant, we have idea what hazards can acute poverty, malnutrition may get!
The son's father asked me not to disturb the doctors. Once we changed neighbourhood, came in paediatrician Dr. Anindya Kundu, such a calm persona. Son was 15 when we visited him after long gap for his last vaccine, he recognised me, asked "apnake chena lagchey, cheley niye ashten!" Why not? For small matters, I would call him. Son was in standard-2, in school he had stomach ache, we mothers would sit at Haji Saheb's home outside of school, DPS Megacity. The moment nurses told he is in day care bed, I instantly took him to Dr. Anindya Kundu's home in Salt Lake although nurses told nothing serious it was. He was kind enough to check him, he was getting ready for nap before running to Charnock hospital in evening.
His Hospital was in neighbourhood, I refused waiting until evening! Having friends like Kana, panic is natural. Those days Dr. Amitabha Pahari was big name, he was attached to Apollo Hospital, moment one sister like Suparna's elder son would catch fever, she used to call me, "S didi, get ready, lets go to Dr. Pahari immediately"! Then one day, Dr. Pahari told her calmly, "you need not come with his fever to me! I have critical child patients to treat!" The breadwinners gave us every luxury, yet we girls told them kids need fathers, not chauffeurs! They chose Mumbai, own properties; I chose Singapore, peaceful secured life! May be we don't have that financial strength to have everything together. I am thankful to parents' humble upbringing, our mother's, maternal grandmother's affinity towards higher academics; our son's MS degree with good score feels more happening! One son like's great score with scholarship wasn't matching the job offers he got, I told if you compromise that would be disrespecting your abilities, go for MS. If I can motivate young boys & girls a little, my life is fulfilled! I keep saying this. At times I tend to give suggestions to established selves, they may flak me at my back!
Tomorrow we would be attending marriage reception, all friends, hosts would wear heavy jewelry, saris; I would go minimal; I don't own many, neither have urge. I prefer antique silver jewelry, hardly invest, thankful to parents again. The Bread winner can't say I create ruckus demanding this, that! Yet, life isn't straight line, we are bound to face ups & downs. The fear of what's next is the only fear I live with, escalated once son left home. Enjoy your time together, give family your utmost! Don't be calculative! It hurts when I hear about broken homes, I don't judge, I say if you have built home, don't set apart over trivial issues, kids get affected, neither we can live together with wide differences.
We cannot reach conclusions for all matters, an escapist like me avoids giving verdicts, I try to pacify, better at spreading love, serving home cooked, warm food on your plates. Man is home today, I cooked wow chicken roast for lunch!
On occasion of Poila Baishak/Bengali New Year, snack lover Bengalis require mustard-mango sauce/Kashundi, I made at home!
Amidst chaos, choice food brings comfort. San-wich's sweet treats are love, homemade Dalia treats too.
My cautious self also crosses boundaries, mere mortals, our steps can't be totally measured! My VEGAN GLUTEN-FREE COFFEE CAKE is a measured treat, minutely executed! At one point I faced confusion, beautifully handled. I loved a big piece today with tea!
I baked two dairy-free, vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free treats yesterday, above went for a dear, met over dinner at Kenny Roger's Roaster's at City Square Mall. While you try this cake done with gluten-free flours, oats, banana, olive oil, walnuts, let me get pictures sooner to my public profile!
Few snack recipes from blog are RICE VERMICELLI VEGETABLES NOODLE, CRISPY BAKED PASTRY SHEET ROLL, PAN SEARED CABBAGE SNACK, FRESH DRAGON FRUIT ICE LOLLY, BENGALI PYAZI
INGREDIENTS :
GLUTEN-FREE FLOUR : 1 & 1/2 COFFEE MUG
OATS : 1/2 COFFEE MUG [BUY GLUTEN-FREE]
CORN FLOUR : 2 TBSP
PSYLLIUM HUSK / ISOBGUL : 1 TBSP
INSTANT COFFEE GRANULE : 1 TBSP
BAKING POWDER : 1 & 1/2 TSP
BAKING SODA : 1 TSP
COCONUT MILK OR CREAM : 200 ML
BANANA : 1 STANDARD SIZED
SUGAR : 1 MEDIUM TEA CUP SIZED
VINEGAR : 1 TBSP
VANILLA ESSENCE : 2 TSP [YOU MAY USE CINNAMON POWDER]
OIL : 4 TBSP
WALNUT : 8-10 [OPTIONAL]
I roughly browsed few coffee cakes in the internet, went my way!
PROCEDURE :
Initially, I mixed coffee with flours, we wouldn't do that, instead dilute coffee granules in warm water. Also sprinkled some sugar before baking, we should always do that after it cools post baking!
Mix together dry ingredients except coffee granules, sugar.
Dilute coffee granules in warm water. I used 50 gm of coconut powder, diluted it in 1 coffee mug warm water. Add both coffee, coconut milk to dry ingredients mix.
Wash, peel banana, blend together with sugar, oil, vinegar.
Add to batter, also vanilla essence, broken walnuts.
Beat, pour into cake tin. Our batter is ready!
Place cake stand inside oven, convection mode microwave oven in my case. Preheat oven at 180*C!
Place the cake tin atop stand. Bake at 180*C for 25 minutes. Temperature settings differ from machine to machine, be careful about time taken.



















